Prologue
Stage 1: Inception
The time is flying with glorious wings. You were pretty convinced that you’ve lived the meaning of life and everything is hunky dory!
Then it happens.
The arrangement had breathed its highest moments and days come over as the hangover of Ecstacy. The charm had receded and the knowledge of each other owing to the friend that you saw in the beautiful stranger( at the time when the love was in its first spring) is now employed in hurling unwanted bullets you so don’t want.
Either ways for both of them.
You know.
So there are enough articles for women and though I wouldn’t want to disappoint my pretty reader base, I would want this one to be very genuine and based out of experience. Though we can safely presume the issues are similar, the trigger points manifest very variedly.
So my brother,
You have had the best possible trip in your love life and now you’re being woken up from the dream. Responsibilities hit on the face along with the dilemma of self existential crisis. A fairly young and potential man / woman subject to a different set of emotions than he/she signed up for.
People change. Over time. Like the ship of Theseus. The dots can only be connected backwards.
The cuteness fades a little and you’re baptised with fire for everything that’s going average in your life. Your life goals become shadowed by your better half’s expectations.
You’re a different man /woman now. You can’t look back and say I am the same. In the name of maturity, marriage and growing up, the inner child is expected to behave like a seasoned version of its being.
The general talks spiral into endless splashing and bantering. The same issues which were not even issues but mere cuteness at a certain point of time in relationship seems like a pile of big fucking problems which the other partner is forced to cater.
You know it’s time.
When coming back seems tiring. Office appears as the only peaceful tenure of the day before the music starts again. When you sleep with either turned other sides and the sex life seems like a distant dream with flying images of “others” rushing your imagination as you come or don’t.
You know it’s time.
When the comparison becomes so frequent and tiring that you lose that last bit of confidence pressed out of you.
And then you take that plunge.
Getting out from something that you get so used to that you start redefining yourself as a part of your this new not so you life.
Takes both a toll, mentally and emotionally.
Also, if any family gets involved, the additional stress that it gives along is very consuming to itself.
Though these factors might be inhibiting in choosing to take a step, they are an integral part of the process and have to be undertaken anyway.
Stage 2 – Realizations and taking measures to fix what needs to be fixed.
So you know it now.
And it stems in you a kind of agony and pain you think no one ever must come to be introduced to.
See, this is you.
Still thinking about others while you fight within your own existential crisis.
Those pile of lies against someone like you, Not done!
So , now you gotta do something about it and get yourself to a much happier and calmer place. Towards this, exceptional steps need to be taken and it is going to be fucking stupidly effort-taking.
While you’re mustering your courage enough to how to face the music, trust me its like a process which needs to undergo certain stages to get the outcome. So there are two things that need to be done any way. Before we dwell upon it , let me take a moment to congratulate you for the realization part. For me , it took some balls too.
1.The first thing we do is the understanding of the following statement,
I take full responsibility of my actions. Though however stupid it may sound to me now, this entire gambit was a result of my decisions in the time that has gone by , taken by a person who I was at that point of time and may be I’ve learnt my lessons on the way and I stand as a more learned individual who has worked more on himself to understand the functioning of people and life in general , this does not absolve me from taking full and complete responsibility of my actions and feelings.
The God in me, who resides in this pure form, the God who knows all and sees it all , the very element of my soul that resides within me, That God particle, will find me in a place where he dwells in eternity , rejoicing in the paradise , The one he created with your help (The you as the body , The Host in which the entity resides and serve its purpose).
You, as a host will find all the courage and answers to sail through it, provided you trust yourself with the belief of keeping your entity happy.
You’re fully responsible for both , bad and good things that come across your life.
Also, You’re fully responsible for crafting a life of your own choice , Keeping the host, happy & healthy and the entity or the soul, Joyous , in tandem with your choice of environment and in peace.
2. No one else is going to do your pushups.
Stage 3 – Nullifying the pain
The only way to ride a tide is to just float. Resisting against it as a man with inflated ego who would try to face the sea tide on the chest should only tumble and taste the sand. The knowledge of the nature of tide should help you getting past those starting hiccups in the way of you setting your sail into the calmer blue waters.
Ride the tide.
The most important part here is execution. More than the thinking part. Remember,
An outcome is a result of series of action and that only shall reach you to the desired state.
Stage 4 : Reclaiming the life you want.
So that’s all the green from the house man!
What remains is the work that you need to do and you know it best what you need to do. Align your priorities, visualise yourself how you would want to be and then take actions to do what it takes.
Your life is an eternal journey that should and would take the course of destiny as you craft for it. Speaking of Hindu mythology and with discarding the mathematical equation of increasing population, your human form has been bestowed to your entity after a hooping 8.4 million life forms ranging from reptiles and aquatic life to aerial and microscopic forms. More on this here
With this realization you take positive measures to craft your way out in this ever doubting unforgiving world.
Then you do it.
Then you go for it.
Devising the life you want. Satiating that entity as you live a fulfilled healthy , happy and much fulfilling life , wake up to the sounds of birds or the lick from your furry friends or in arms that feel like home.
Post Rebirth
Splash and surface.
The impact went by , highly reduced by the dive you crafted on the way, you arch your body and surface.
Breathe.
Congratulations on your rebirth.
We now will create and witness a life that you always dreamt of.
Take a fu*king break.
Lay Back , pat yourself on the back, grab a drink and your heels or sedan, look up and voila, let’s go for a kill.
Come back and thank me in the comment .
Also if you need any sharing at any point of your journey of reclaiming yourself.
We are all sailing the same seas and its very helping to hear the stories/ Motivation .
Write it all down.
See you on the other side.
That was pretty long but interesting. Will take some time to absorb n understand I guess.